Sorry for the vague title, but no better way to say it. My wife and I have been trying to buy a home since November. We lost out 7 times to all cash offers, 7 day closings, 100k over asking and one home was only accepting offers with no contingencies. I was depressed, angry and losing hope. I got sick of waiting to see what comes on the market only to lose it without even being told I lost it. I was about to quit and sign a year lease on a rental, but I decided to not play the game and bypass the MLS system all together. I asked friends, posted on Next door and almost started writing letters to potential sellers. I started seeing homes before they were on sale as a result and found out our best friends next door neighbors were moving out. I approached the owner and made a driveway deal without my realtor. Got him involved after the deal was accepted. 30 day close just finished and it never hit the open market. Keep up hope, the market will cool and you will find the right home. Thanks for all the support and entertainment on this subreddit.